11:16 AM
Chineke! But some Fiance can be mean oooo.....No be 6 years I dey see for there? This is the mail the poor lady sent me:
"Sir, I must commend your spirit and level of exposure. Your blog, stories and posts are really inspiring. I find you yourself motivating and great.
Sir I'm currently in a state of dilemma and I'm about to become something else if I don't find a solution to my problem. It's been 6 years since my fiance proposed to me. Throughout these years, he never talked about marriage and anytime I try to discuss it he goes crazy at me and sometimes won't sleep at home. Only for him to come back home the next day and act like nothing happened. I moved in with him 3 months after he proposed.
My families and friends have been expecting us to reveal the date of our wedding day. My fiance is not even talking about it at all. He is still caring and loving but I'm not happy because he proposed 6 years ago and there are still no plans for our wedding yet.
I am tired of wearing this engagement ring. What am I doing wrong or what should I do?"
*Clears throat*......Yaaaayyyy!!! Your first paragraph got me smiling and high....but that your second paragraph changed my mood completely. I be small boy ooo....buh werin dey my brain and what I've experienced has turned me to an adult. How will a guy propose to a lady when he's got no plan to get married to the lady in at least a year time? Thatz wickedness to me, aswear. Itz damn fucking bad.
Madam, there is nothing you're doing wrong. I guess when he proposed he was too happy....maybe he just got a new job....so, he celebrated the new job by kneeling in front of you and popped the question. Na over excitement go cause am. I think itz time you tell his family about this, thatz if he has introduced you to them anywayz.
If he will not give you the chance to discuss it.....then send him a mail or text message. Believe me, he'll read it. Let your message be clear and straight forward. Write everything thatz in your mind in the mail. Tell him how the issue is getting you crazy and remember to tell him that I said he is very very wicked and heartless to have got you engaged for a period of 6 years with no single plan for wedding. Tell him that I must not catch him ooo.
And if after 3 months of persuasion and fervent prayers (which is really necessary), he is still not saying anything about it. Biko, pack your belongings (big and small) and get out of his house. I know you will want to be like; "I can't leave him after wasting over 6 years with him". Ok oooo. Sit don with him for another 6 years. By that time, the baby of our house for don born her 1st child.
The Charming Humble Nice Guy won't say more than this.
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Staying with a man for 6yrs is a waste time and therefore, she should leave if the man fail to say his mind.A total waste of time.
ReplyDeleteHaAaaa dat man deh wicked ooooo,how com did he use charm 4 u niii!!!,
ReplyDeleteYou moved in after the proposal? *shocked*
ReplyDeleteHow do you expect him to spend on a wedding while he is already getting wife benefits? *cheesy*
Why would you expect him to buy the cow when the milk is already free? *angry*
You dey learn work? Or rather, art thou a learner?
Madam move out of that house and get a life!
Seriously, this guy need not to fix wedding date.you know why?u both are living like a married couple already.how on earthwould your family allowed such?Living with a guy who is not your husband for six years???? Are u for real? So what's new abt you that he doesn't know..isee just foolow what CHNCG said and if dt doesn't work,LEAVE
ReplyDeleteFrom the post , she has been discharging her wifely duties of living with him , taking care of his needs including sleeping with him for 6 years without being a wife.
ReplyDeleteWhat else is the man going to pay for again?
Women are like birds. Once they feel secured, they do all sort of things regardless of whether the man is serious or not. The fastest way to sleep with a woman is to promise her marriage. But I don't think it's good. Men should be good and responsible too. If you're not sure of getting married to a specific woman, please do not propose or promise her marriage.
ReplyDeleteI wonder how some people put one and two together. as a lady you begin to live with a guy, engaged or not, then you expect the guy to startplanning a wedding ceremony. for why? as in? for what reason? so youwillmove in? or so you'll start cooking? or so he can be intimate with you?One thing ladies don't realize. thereare things you should never do to a guy or allow him do to you. it forever tarnishes your worth beforehim. the guy won't complain or speak against it cos he may be benefitting from it or it may be too embarrassing to say to you or it may be something only another lady can say to you.Chai!!
ReplyDeleteMy ppl hv a saying dat if u stay too much on faeces all srts of flies wl mt u dere. Girl lt me tel u 4fm persnal expernce d guy may nt want to marry u. He may hv another lady smwhr his planng to mary within 6mnths, bt his stl enjyng ur bdy he dnstn wants to lose u nw. Tk a bld step dscus wit hm to knw where u‘re gng or else u‘re wastng ur tm wt hm. Tk a persnl exp advice lv hm be4 u becm old cargo truth is bitter. God hlp u.
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