FROM A READER - I CAUGHT MY BOYFRIEND LIVE IN THE ACT MAKING LOVE WITH HIS NEIGHBOR. SHOULD I FORGIVE HIM?

The topic sounds like normal wahala in a relationship, shey? If it is YES for you.....Well, I don't think so. Maybe when you read her mail, you'll know it is not a small matter.

Here is what she sent to me:
"Please help me. I have never been this depressed and I fear it's going to kill me.  I recently caught my boyfriend of a year plus now, right in the act cheating on me. With one of his neighbors. I had gotten a half day off from work that day and was in high spirits. So I decided to surprise my boyfriend. My plan was to go to his house, he was also supposed to be at work, he's a sales rep for a company. So my plan was to visit him, prepare a delicious meal, set up the house for a romantic, relaxing night rest and wait till he gets home from work.  Since I had my own key to his house I just went straight to the market, bought stuff I
needed and headed for his house without calling him. I got there, as usual I opened the door and walked in. Only to be confronted with soft moans coming from our bedroom. I was confused! At first I paused but curiosity got the best of me and I headed towards the direction of the noise. What I saw made me nearly collapse in complete shock. My boyfriend was in bed with his neighbor, who knew very well about me.  He saw me and immediately got off.  I was speechless. I couldn't believe it! When I finally regained consciousness, I just quickly left, weeping and shaking violently. My supposed darling boyfriend chased me and was saying all this stuff how he was sorry and that she meant nothing to him. That it was just a one time thing. I was just screaming in shock.  It's been two weeks now. My boyfriend has also cried his eyes out to me since I caught him, sent everybody imaginable to come beg me and won't leave me alone but the hurt and the pain of being betrayed like this has been too much for me to bear.  Have you ever forgiven someone who cheated on you? Why did you take them back? And did it work out the second time? Are you guys still together? Or is forgiving a cheater something you would never ever do again? At this point, I don't even see myself in that house again. But I really loved my boyfriend. I really loved this man. Why would he do this to me? Why?! The tears won't stop pouring."

Hmmmmmm......*throw head down*.....can you now see that it is not a small matter? I got this mail like a week ago.....I took my time to go over the story many times and studied the punchlines (so to say). This guy happens to have been doing this with his neighbor for sometime.....just to satisfy his horny self.

This is normal among Nigerian guyz.....we have someone who we really love, someone who we cant afford to lose for anything.....and then have one or two side chics (thatz what I call them, really). Some guyz do not see it as cheating on their girlfriends but it is, in its real sense.....cuz we also won't be happy if our girlfriends have side bobos.

So, I will say your boyfriend fucked up to have had it with his neighbor who knows about you.....and Madam, you should be happy you caught them.....cuz, it would have been worse when you are married to him.

With the way he is apologizing, I feel he is now sober and wants to repent. If you still love him.....take him back.....don't worry, you'll catch him again if per-adventure he does it again.

And my online bestie (Tiwa) has got something to tell yu - "So pathetic o. I feel for d babe gan ni o. If she rily love d guy love conquers all tinz. All they need is a round table discussion coz all i see from d story b say na d neigbour b ogbanje wey wan scatter dem. mayb she sef dan dey d guy since. she kan use d oppotunity to allow him knack her apako. You knw say with little seduction man of God fit fall talkless of a sales rep.....Round table discussion to talk abt aw he take happen, why he take happen, who masterminded d act, why d guy no fit resist. Many issues to trash.....as d guy dey cry like pikin. to me if na genuine cry dat means he pain am say dz chop nd clean mouth act wan scatter his life. But if d guy sef b runz guy. no need for discussion.
As e b bf nd gf nd d guy dey beg like dat nd d babe dey love like dat u shld tink dat they r already working on somtyn byond boifrndism or gfrndism o. Atleast both r working class y they go dey engage in senseless relationship at dia age . u sef tink abt it nau.
All d same. in conclusion make d babe follow her heart na d koko b dat. Coz all of us wey dey talk if they eventually marry nd d guy turn to full tym runz boi we no go help partake in d wahala o. datz just my take."

Na now I sabi sey my Online Bestie don kolo.....pidgin throughout.....I had to share the mail with her first cuz me sef confuse as to what to say about the issue.

My people, Tiwa and I don talk.....what do you have to say to about this issue? Drop your words as comment.

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