HOW TO KNOW IF IT IS LOVE, LUST OR INFATUATION. [By The Aggravated Boyfriend]

Na so we crawl enter September like play like play ooo. Hmmmm, this year don dey near its end be that ooo. Well, HAPPY NEW MONTH my able friends. September will bring all those goodies we've prayed for in 2014.

You people should remember The Aggravated Boyfriend na. That my padi wey write THE CRIES OF AN AGGRAVATED BOYFRIEND (Click on the title to read the very touching write-up). Well, he's back with what you're about to read. Get set to know the truth, it might hurt you but it'll surely set you free.

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I would love to go through the normal procedure by trying to explain what love is first and all the blah blah blah involved but I'm just gonna cut the chase and go straight to the point. So skipping the love part for now and moving to lust and infatuation. Please lemme quickly give you a small hint. Love actually is the most difficult to explain or figure out of all three, but if you're able to understand the last two well enough, love becomes the easiest to figure out. Unfortunately, understanding these concepts is usually easier for the guys than their female counterparts in the gender world. There are only but a handful of ladies strong enough and possess the ability to know the differences and handle all three feelings well.

Lust in the simplest of words is a strong feeling of sexual desire!

Like you already know, there's this general conception that once a guy stares at a lady, he's already undressing her in his head! Now this is where guys have the head start in understanding lust. They've got a girlfriend/spouse they love so much and would never joke with but then there's this other lady(s) they so badly want to get down with, strictly for the fuck. Nothing more! Shikena. It's like 'hey girl, let's do this just to satisfy the burning hunger for your body blazing inside of me'. No string attached.

It's quite sad it's not like that for the females, 'before you get down below, you'll have to take me out to dinner, with soft music playing at the background and beautiful candles........... ' hey, snap out of it! It's just lust we're talking about here. A simple body transaction and not some romantic heart felt emotions. Now I believe you can agree with me that their are only a few ladies that have and can handle this feeling. They're usually only sexually attracted to the guy for different reasons of theirs. The guy might be a super sexy hunk that they can't just wait to wrap their body around or they've heard rumors of how endowed the guy is and just can't wait to get a taste of the forbidden fruit. 'No special feelings involved, don't come sending me text messages and flowers, I've got a man in my life!'
Simply put, it's just sex and bounce!

Meanwhile, my friend infatuation here, is quite dangerous if you don't understand it. Somehow It falls between love and lust. It walks hand in hand with obsession, they're like un-identical twins. In this case both the male and female gender can easily fall a victim.

Have you ever had that feeling of:
- Wanting to be with someone at all times?
- Wanting to know what they are doing?
- Where they are?
- Who they're meeting?
- Not letting them out of your sight and also you must have their undivided attention?
- You just suddenly feel it's your job and number one priority to be worried for them?
- Their headache inexplicably becomes yours?

Hey my friend, that's undiluted infatuation! In lust, slight jealousy is allowed, in love the jealousy might be a little higher but when the jealousy is highly concentrated, you know that is infatuation. Infatuation can be so terrible that it makes you become a stalker. It gets even crazier when you're rejected, no matter how polite. I mean, this guy/babe told you 'it's over' or 'you can't have me' (in a situation where you're even yet to start something), and all you can think of is 'Never'!. Often times, ladies seems to believe frequent sex with the guy, will make him stay. When you're doing this, my dear, you don't love him, you're simply infatuated, except if you're on a different mission entirely. You call him endlessly all day, you suspect her every move and activities. Sorry to break it to you, you're the victim here.

Some even try to mask the feeling by being a nice friend. A friend told me a girl once told him if he's not ready for her now, she'll wait till he's ready and trust me she's being waiting for over 4 years now and still counting. According to my dear friend, she's not showing any sign of giving up, always ringing it to his ears and at the same time, she's not interfering in his personal or relationship life. In short, she's disturbing peacefully.
So let's be straight, you're infatuated when you think you can't do without having that person you claim you love.

Having talked about lust and infatuation, it is now safe to talk love (the greatest feeling of all). If in one person, you find, trust, respect, care, joy, coincidence, assurance, attention, lust, security, etc, it's love my dear friend. It's like an all-in-one package. You're at your best when with them. Like orgasm, love is a wonderful feeling!

I see no need to go deep about Love as I've made it clear earlier; "Love actually is the most difficult to explain or figure out of all three, but if you're able to understand 'Lust' and 'Infatuation' well enough, love becomes the easiest to figure out.'

So my dear, looking through all I've discussed above, I'd really love to ask you to check yourself and that guy/lady....is it LOVE, LUST or INFATUATION?

Written by: The Aggravated Boyfriend,
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